You’re finally going to get what you want. Your husband has decided to propose to you, and he has enlisted the help of an attorney to do it justice. The question is, how long are you going to have to wait for that proposal?
As a woman looking to remarry, you’ll need to decide whether to take the proposal now or to wait until your husband’s emotional state has improved. Do you want to find yourself in a situation where you have to beg for his affections, or would you rather he worked through his issues and found the sincerity to propose?
If you’re wondering how to overcome a husband who is set on betting against you, but won’t divorce you, then this article is for you. Here we’ll discuss everything you need to know about this situation so you can make the right decision. We’ll even give you some handy tips on how to get your husband to propose to you!
Is He Looking For Ways To Punish You?
One of the red flags that your husband is not ready to propose to you is if he’s looking for ways to punish you. Even if you’ve been married to this man for years and he treats you like a queen, there are going to be occasions where he feels like cheating on you. This could manifest itself in many ways, such as;
· Checking your phone or social media accounts for even the littlest infractions (texts that go against your ‘no phones’ rule, etc.).
· Keeping a close eye on your spending, especially if you’re going overboard on any luxuries (e.g., diamond earrings, designer bags, etc.).
· Not sleeping with you, even though you’ve been married to him for a long time – this is a clear indication that he doesn’t feel loved and wants to punish you for forcing him to commit to you (and for being ‘greedy’).
· Ordering you around, calling you names, or disrespecting you in any way – this is all part of his process of dealing with his issues and doesn’t indicate that he’s changed for the better.
How Long Does He Need To Work Through His Issues?
If you decide to wait till your husband has worked through his issues to propose to him, then you need to decide how long you’re willing to wait. You’ll want to work through whatever is standing in the way of you two staying married, but you also don’t want to rush it. You need to consider what’s acceptable to you and your husband’s conscience.
Many times, people think that they’ll be able to ‘fix’ a situation with one proposal, but oftentimes, the issue is much deeper than that. Your husband might need a bit of time to sort out what is motivating his actions, and in some cases, it could be a battle of wills. You can’t rush these things, especially if you want the marriage to work. You need to give him the space to find his way back to you, but you also need to be understanding of his limitations and conditions. After all, you’ve been married to this man for a long time, and you probably know more about him than anyone else.
The Cost Of His Attending Attorney
One of the things that could hold up your proposal is if your husband is paying for the services of an attorney. Even if you’re independently wealthy, it’s still going to be expensive for him to draw up the paperwork required for a divorce. In some cases, there could be other expensive costs related to the legal process (e.g., court filing fees, deposition costs, etc.). When your husband is already burdened by financial difficulties, the last thing he needs is to be further sinking his pockets – especially if you’re the one footing the bill.
The Benefits Of A Proxy Marriage
What you need to remember about your proxy marriage is that it’s not for the “awakening” of the heart. Your husband doesn’t love you any less because he wants to punish you. He’s playing a role, and for that reason, you need to accept his behavior with grace. You don’t need to fix him, you need to accept who he is and what he needs. He might be acting out because he feels guilty for what he’s done, or because he needs someone to blame for his own inadequacies. It’s not your problem, it’s his. You are better off knowing than not knowing about this.
Practical Tips For Proposing To Your Spouse
If you’re looking to propose to your spouse, then there are a few things that you can do to make it as special as possible. First of all, work on building trust with each other. You can do this through regular honest communication. This doesn’t mean that you have to agree on every issue, but it does mean that you both should be open to discussing matters with each other.
You can also show your spouse that you value them by planning a special ‘thank you’ dinner or outing. Something that is both personal and special to you. This can help to build loyalty between you and your spouse. It doesn’t hurt to show someone that you value them, and that you’re thankful for what they’ve provided (even if it’s been difficult at times).
Another thing that you can do to make your proposal special is to write a love letter to each other. This can be a wonderful way to express your feelings, as well as give each other something to read (in the event that your spouse does indeed ‘dump’ you). A love letter doesn’t have to be long; even a few short sentences can work. You can also buy each other gifts – even if it’s just a small token of your affection.
You might also want to consider getting matching tattoos. This could be the ultimate symbol of your commitment to one another. If you don’t have any tattoos yet, then getting one on your belly would be a good place for the sake of authenticity (or at least good enough for Instagram).
Of course, you’ll want to do whatever is necessary to make the proposal as special and romantic as possible. This means that you might need to ask a dear friend or family member for assistance. You might consider hiring a professional photographer to capture the moment – something simple but sweet (e.g., two boats floating on a lake, or a sunset over fields of flowers). If none of the above seem suited to you, then perhaps a romantic comedy will do the trick.
Getting A Professional To Review The Financials
If you’re looking to get remarried, then one of the most important things for you to consider is your husband’s finances. It’s no secret that men can be a little slow at thinking about money, but you need to make sure that he is going to be able to afford you no matter what. You don’t want to get married only to discover that he’s financially unstable – especially if you’re going to be expected to support him.
There are several ways to go about doing this. One option is to have an accountant or financial advisor review his financial statements and tell you exactly how much you can expect to spend. This could be a good starting point for your negotiations – if you decide to go down this path. An accountant can be an invaluable resource – as long as you keep their advice within reason.
Don’t Underestimate The Power Of Mature, Generous, And Loyalty
Your husband might feel trapped, or that he has no other choice than to punish you. However, this doesn’t have to be the case. There are several ways that he could change, and if you want to make this work, then you’ll need to be willing to forgive and forget. Generous and mature adults can change their lives for the better, and often, they can change for the better around their spouses. The question is, are you ready to accept his change? Are you ready to commit to a life with this man?
The key to any successful relationship is communication. If you can talk to each other and be open about your feelings and needs, then you’ll be able to resolve your differences. It might not be easy at first, but you both will grow to appreciate the benefits of open and honest communication. This doesn’t mean that you have to agree on every issue, but it does mean that you both should be working towards the same goal – to make the relationship work. Perhaps, one day, you’ll even look back and consider this period of your life to be a valuable learning experience – even if it was difficult at times.